Pride and sexual attachment kill more spiritual beings than any other delusions. We saw this with Gen-la Samden and others. I see this within myself. Divine pride and bliss is correct, but lacking clear discriminating wisdom and strength of pure motivation we become deceived by pride and sexual attachment. These come before the fall. If once we do fall we do not acknowledge and admit our mistake, then we can never pick ourselves back up again. What scares me most about the Gen-la Samden story is how when he came back he could not admit his mistake but continued to insist he hadn’t made any. As long as we do not admit and acknowledge our mistakes and negativity as such we can never start again. It does not matter that we fall. It is normal, it will take many tries just like in learning to master a video game. We identify and acknowledge our errors, learn something for next time, pick ourselves up and try again. But if our pride does not allow us to identify and acknolwedge our errors, but instead tries to justify and rationalize why we made none, then there is no picking ourselves up and moving on.
I just had a dream. This is what I understood from it. When you generate attachment for somebody, even slight that you are not expressing, it functions to push that person away from you. When you are their connection to the spiritual path or a spiritual life, the net effect of your attachment is to destroy their spiritual life. But when you keep more of a distance, but remain open and ready to help, then it creates the space for people to come towards you from their own side. When they do, though, you need to be careful to not generate attachment for them again, because if you do, then new obstacles to your relationship will arise.