If we look at the flow of all living beings with Dharma wisdom, we will notice at any given moment, they are either moving deeper into samsara or they are moving out.

Geshe-la tells the story of the person who stood in a doorway and asked “am I going in or going out?” The other person correctly answered, “it depends upon your intention.” In many ways, this describes the situation of pretty much everyone every moment of every day. They stand in front of a choice – do they go deeper into samsara or do they head out?

Most people are completely unaware of the fact that this is the choice they face. They may not have even ever heard of samsara or nirvana, much less know the directions in or out. But that doesn’t change the fact that at each moment they have to choose between moving deeper into samsara or heading out. How they choose to act determines which direction their mind heads. Sadly, most people are like zombies heading straight for the cliff into the lower realms.

When we engage with others, we should not just meet them where they are at, but specifically we should meet them at the points in their mind where they face this choice of going deeper into samsara or heading towards the exit. This is where we need to meet them – at the gate. What form that takes will vary from moment to moment and person to person, but all beings are always standing at this gate. We just need to see it and meet people there.

When we stand at the gate, we of course should stand on the side of inside heading in the direction of enlightenment. We cannot force people to make the choice to head in our direction, they have to make that decision themselves. But we can position ourselves in such a way that it seems perfectly doable and sensible to take a step in our direction – we can’t be so far from where they are at that heading in our direction seems out of reach.

We adopt a posture of invitation, welcoming others to join us, but in no way manipulating or controlling them to do so. We don’t tell them what they should do, we simply embody the better choice in how we ourselves think, speak, and behave. We show an understanding of the difficult circmstances they are in and choices they have to make. We cast no judgment nor impose any emotional penalty if they make a choice to head deeper into samsara. They might not know any better or see any viable alternative.

If they move deeper into samsara, that’s OK, we just pivot with them, standing at the new gate they find themselves. Our door always remains open, no matter how far they may stray. We don’t join them, we remain on our side of the gate, but we show our compassion can expand to wherever they might find themselves.

If they ask for our advice or ask where we are headed, we can of course explain to them in a way that they can accept or understand. With some people, we can explain with Dharma words directly, but with most people we need to be skillful to explain things in a way they can relate to.

Je Phabongkhapa explained merely seeing a pure Heruka practitioner is a cause of enlightenment for others. A pure HYT practitioner is the real liberating by seeing, hearing, or wearing. We don’t need to say or do anything in particular, often our silence and stillness is our most effective way of being. We just need to be present as Heruka in their life, even if they have no idea what we are doing.

A Buddha is like a magic cystal that always spontaneously appears to each and every being every day in exactly the most appropriate way to inspire others to head towards them – towards enlightenment, out of samsara. We often don’t see them, but they are always there if we look. They are like a compass that always points towards the city of enlightenment. These are their emanations. They always stand inside the gate, inviting us to join them. If we wish to become a Buddha ourselves and have emanations that serve a similar function, we can start to train how to do so today. How? Meet people at the gate.