We have to go through a lot of pain before we can develop a qualified bodhichitta.

First, we have to admit to ourselves that our situation in samsara is hopeless without giving into despair because we have found a way out.

Then, we have to get to the point where we cannot bear those we love suffering without any trace of self-concern or despondency.

Finally, we have to accept we are currently powerless to do much to help those we love and they will continue to suffer for a long time until we become a Buddha for them, and even then they will have to do the work themselves.

Each one of these is like walking on a mental tightrope and falling into the extremes on either side of each one is very painful. We will fall. We will hurt. We will cry. It will not be easy.

This journey is only made in the heart and the heart feels. We have to have the courage to knowingly and willingly take on the inner hurt associated with embarking on this inner journey. It’s not all adventure and rainbows. It’s a whole lot of struggle and inner pain.

It’s easier to just think ignorance is bliss than accept the truth of our situation. It’s easier to harden our heart to other’s plight than take on their pain. It’s easier to fool ourselves into thinking we are farther along the path than we really are than accept without discouragement that we are still a mess. It is easier to believe that somehow everyone will be OK and they not fall deeper into samsara than accept that virtually everyone we love is on a one-way ticket to the lower realms. It’s easier to just stay at the intellectual level than move into the heart.

But the easy way is in fact the hard way. The hard way is, in the long-run, the easier way because there is an end. We have been shown what we need to do. It works for all who try it.

But nobody said it would be painless.