Compassion is the answer to the U.S. Election

My take on the election: I do not believe Trump won because the United States is any more sexist, racist, or Islamaphobic than it was two days ago, rather I believe he won despite him showing all of these signs. He won because whether he realized it or not, the new political divide in the world today is not between right and left as we have known them for the last forty years, but rather between a globalizing elite and those who feel left behind by the new world.

The New York Times has an outstanding graphic which shows geographically which areas Trump outperformed Romney four years ago. It is very clear: he won the former industrial mid-west, in particular those areas with relatively fewer college graduates – in other words, the white working class. His racist and sexist attitudes probably cost him more votes than he won by them. Many of the haters would have voted for him anyways, many more were grossly turned off by them. The people he flipped were working class whites, former union people and a large portion of the population who normally don’t vote at all, in particular in rural areas. We see the same thing in Brexit and around the developed world.

The truth is the situation of poor, low-education, working class whites in America has become a disaster. And the truth is globalization has played a large part in that decline. These people are forced to compete with literally billions of new entrants into the global middle class, primarily in East Asia, India and yes Latin America. In their gut, the white working class know globalization has played a massive role in their prospects becoming so grim. When somebody comes along who tells them what they feel in their bones to be true, they think “finally, somebody who gets it and somebody who has the balls and will to reverse it,” and so they come out in sufficient numbers to propel him to victory (it only takes a few percent of the voting population to flip the election result in swing states, and thus the country).

Why did the pollsters and data wizards get it wrong? The only explanations I can think of are (1) many people weren’t willing to share openly their support for Trump with pollsters precisely because they knew Trump was so politically incorrect and they feared being stigmatized as racists and sexists by expressing their support, and (2) because modern polling techniques have some sort of systematic sample bias of primarily polling those who have been hurt less by deindustrialization (technology and communication habits, most likely).

The reality is this – Economics correctly states globalization benefits the country more than it hurts it, but there are populations which lose out from it. The solution, of course, is for the winners of globalization to compensate the losers so that we are all better off. This basic bargain hasn’t been implemented. The globalized elite have pocketed their gains and live in informational bubbles where they do not even encounter people who have lost from globalization. I find it telling that Trump supporters just knew Trump would win because everybody they knew supported Trump, and the same is true for Hillary supporters – they just knew Hillary would win because everyone they knew despised Trump and because Nate Silver was never wrong. But we live in different worlds. The failure of the left to insist on some form of compensation for those left behind by globalization as a condition for their support of it is a primary reason why Trump won. Why did the left not care? Because we had, consciously or not, labeled such people deplorables. Because some of them were haters and we thought they were all going to vote Republican (or not vote at all) anyways, we just wrote them off. We arrogantly called them “racist, ignorant white trash.” We also didn’t really know they existed because we live and travel in cities and fly over or drive quickly past their reality.

None of this is to say Trump’s stated policies will make their situation any better. In fact, I fear they could make us all much, much worse off. I think many of these people have been conned into supporting somebody who will not be able to deliver on his promises to them. Eventually that con will be revealed. Maybe these people know it is probably a bunch of false promises, but figure they have nothing to lose by trying it Trump’s way. But it is not enough for us to just wait for his failure to meet expectations to happen. Progressives need to find solutions for poor whites too. I am not saying globalization is entirely to blame. Technological advances in robotics also play a huge role. Most of the failure is actually one of policy support for the working class.

People on the left now face a challenge: we have been criticizing Republicans for putting party before country. Will we now do the same? There are parts of Trump’s agenda which are good, most notably his plans for massive increases in infrastructure spending (I am not talking about the Wall here) and his at least stated intention to do something about campaign finance (though his Supreme Court picks are likely to undo any progress here). But mostly, we need to start thinking of new solutions.

I think we can easily make the case that universal health care, universal pre-K, support for working mothers, free job retrainings and apprenticeships – in short, public support for the working poor – simultaneously helps the poor live middle class lives and keeps the cost of hiring workers low, enabling U.S. companies to compete globally. This is the case we need to make. Just labeling them all racists, sexists, and deplorables will not bring us any closer to solutions or any closer together as a country. We need to heal the divisions this election has laid bare. We can do that with compassion for our fellow citiizens who have communicated clearly they have been hurting and we haven’t been bothered to care.

As Kadampas, we need to remember our fight is with delusions, starting with our own.  There is no creator other than mind.  Everything that appears to us is mere karmic appearance of mind.  This world is our dream, it is our responsibility to reconstruct it.  How?  Through wisdom, compassion, and pure view.  We must resist racism, sexism, Islamaphobia, of course, but we must also resist the elitism and arrogance and uncaring in our own mind.  We must also realize that samsara is the nature of suffering and is the nature of deception.  We know political solutions will only take us so far.  The real solution lies in us destroying the demons of self-cherishing, self-grasping, ordinary conceptions, and ordinary appearances in our own mind, then helping others do the same.  We live in degenerate times.  We must be sources of good.

Modern Bodhisattva’s Way of Life:  Make purification a priority

(2.62) “How can I definitely be freed
From non-virtue, the source of all suffering?”
Throughout the day and the night,
I should think only about this.

We need to be just like this, completely obsessed with ridding our mind of its non-virtue.  Instead, we are usually obsessed with engaging in it.  We have karmic time bombs within our mind that can go off at any point in time, and we don’t know when.  We have right now on our mind the karma to experience every misfortune we see in the world, from poverty, disease, violence, rape, war, public humiliation, loss of position, etc.  At a very profound level, we can say every misfortune we see in the world is a warning from our Dharma protector of what awaits us if we do not purify.  The red lights are flashing, and we remain oblivious.

Very often we fear purification more than we fear not purifying.  This is totally mistaken.  It is true, when we engage in purification it can happen that it seems like the amount of misfortune we experience in our life actually increases.  Why is this?  It is not different from when people engage in detoxification practices to try remove defilements from their body.  Sickness, acne, rashes, etc., often occur.  But we gladly accept such things knowing we are expelling contaminants from our body.  In exactly the same way, when we engage in purification of our negative karma, it can happen that karmic residuals are kicked up, but we should gladly accept such things knowing we are expelling such karma from our mind.  Geshe-la explains in Great Treasury of Merit that when we engage in purification, sometimes our purification practice does not remove the totality of the negative seed, and a residual ripens.  He says we should happily accept this knowing we just avoiding a karmic future far, far worse.

Every moment of every day and every night our urgent priority should be to purify.  When we suddenly find ourselves in financial difficulty, we make it an urgent priority to find a solution to our problem because we know if we don’t, our circumstances can become much worse very quickly.  In the same way, if we don’t make purification of our negative karma our top priority, it is just a question of time before it catches up to us and ruins everything else we have worked for hard for.  When our relationships with those close to us are troubled in some way, we know we can’t do anything else with them until we have put things back on good footing.  In the same way, we have a fundamental relationship problem between our past and present self; and our present and future selves.  Our past self has left us a legacy of karmic debts, and if our present self doesn’t pay them off our future self is doomed to an eternity of misery.  Our ordinary debts are absolved by our creditors at the time of our death, but our karmic debts enjoy no such forgiveness – we carry them with us into the future until we either purify or the debt is paid with suffering.

We should start with what is most difficult for us, such as certain deluded tendencies similar to the cause, such as strong attachment or anger or non-faith.  We each have a delusion that creates for us the most difficulty.  For some it is frustration and anger at the endless cascade of troubles we experience in life; for others it is addictive attachment to harmful substances; for others it is paralyzing laziness.  If we don’t overcome these deluded habits, they will haunt and torment us forever.  Delusions are negative karmic habits of mind.  Normally we battle our deluded tendencies, but it is far simpler to purify them with sincere purification practice.  The primary force of purification is the power of regret – we see how this negative karma creates problems for us, and we wish to once and for all be free from it.  Driven by this wish, we engage in purification.  Oftentimes, though, we have more faith in our negative karma than our ability to purify it.  The methods for purification are not difficult, and they work.  Doubting their effectiveness undermines their power; believing in their effectiveness is their power.

We should never miss an opportunity to engage in purification.  As we clean, we should imagine that we are purifying this negative karma from our mind.  As we bathe or brush our teeth or even go the bathroom, we should imagine we are removing negative karma from our mind.  As we experience difficulties, we should imagine that through this we are burning off all of these deluded tendencies similar to the cause.  Since samsara is the nature of suffering, every moment is, in fact, an opportunity to purify.

Modern Bodhisattva’s Way of Life:  Not being fooled by temporary pleasures

There is a particularly pure spiritual practitioner I know named Taro who, in the past at least, was in a psychiatric hospital for more than a decade.  He would sometimes have really awful days where the delusions were really strong and just torturing him and it was all he could do to not get swept away by them.

He once told me the following story:  “This morning was a total thrashing for me, really, really difficult – as hard as it has been.  I thought, ‘I can’t take it any more.’  Then it suddenly stopped, I relaxed a bit and then I heard a voice say, ‘But I love you’ and he felt this huge wave of love from Dorje Shugden.  He understood that Dorje Shugden was having him go through all of this out of love so that he can once and for all break free from all suffering.  It was all a real act of love.  I then thought, ‘I am in the martial arts temple of Dorje Shugden where he is forging me into a spiritual warrior, so what do I possibly have to fear?  This is all part of my training.”

For me, this is an absolutely fantastic example for us.  It helps us understand what is going on when we have difficulties and it shows us how we should take them.  Instead of clamoring after pleasant experiences, we learn instead to embrace the horrible.  If we can do that, then we can be happy all of the time.

(2.60) What remains with me now from the pleasant experiences
Of my previous lives that have now ceased?
And yet, because of my strong attachment to worldly pleasures,
I have gone against the advice of my Spiritual Guide.

In our countless previous lives, we have enjoyed numerous times every enjoyment samsara has to offer.  But what do we have to show for it?  We can’t even nostalgically remember them.  In this life, we are constantly chasing after the next high, only for it to be shorter and less intense than the last one.  Eventually, we reach the point where nothing does it for us anymore.

Instead of changing strategy, we simply change the external objects we chase.  But each time we do, the result is always the same.  There is no reason to assume it will ever be any different.  Despite this, we keep thinking, “next time will be different” and we chase the rainbow once again.

Our Spiritual Guide has been pretty clear:  chasing after our attachments just makes us more miserable.  We all know the reasons why, and have received many teachings on the subject.  Yet we still continue running after our objects of attachment, engage in all sorts of non-virtue for their sake, and generally waste our precious human life.  After death, it will be too late.  We have our chance now to change course.  If we don’t, we will regret it.

(2.61) If, when I depart from this life
And from my friends and relatives,
I must wander all alone,
Why commit non-virtue for the sake of friends and enemies?

Sometimes when we feel inspired after a teaching we go in the right direction, but then we stop.  Why do we allow ourselves to remain attached to the pleasures of samsara? That attachment is the source, directly or indirectly, of all our suffering.  We need to ask ourselves why we don’t follow the advice of the Spiritual Guide.

Through his immense kindness he is strongly wishing us to swallow the medicine of Dharma?  Do we trust his intention?  We know if we’re following that advice perfectly or not.  We all have areas of our life where there is some instruction we have been given and we are not following it.  We need to ask why and come to a definite decision.  We sometimes pretend in front of others that we are putting the instructions into practice so that they think good about us.  But who are we kidding? Ourselves, our Spiritual guide, everybody, or in fact nobody.  We need to ask ourselves why we do this?

 

Modern Bodhisattva’s Way of Life:  We have to choose, we cannot have both

(2.57) If it is necessary to exercise caution
When near a small, ordinary precipice,
How much more necessary is it when near the fathomless pits of hell
Into which I could fall for a very long time?

I had a dream once where I was in a seemingly beautiful place.  There were these beautiful women flirting with me, encouraging me to follow them for some fun.  I of course eagerly did so, and then all of a sudden I found myself stepping out over a ledge and began falling into fiery pits all around me.  As I did so, the beautiful women removed their masks – they were in fact demons – and as I was beginning to fall, they said “gotcha!” and then I woke up.  This is our very predicament, the only difference being when we wake up we will not find ourselves in our bed, but rather we will find ourselves having fallen into the lower realms.

Modern people like to think they are too sophisticated to believe in seemingly superstitious things like hell.  But we need only look to other parts of the world to realize what is possible – famine, war, genocide, mass rape, extreme poverty, terrible cold, scorching heat, terrible darkness.  Karma changes very quickly.  Most of us are only one paycheck away from finding ourselves on the street.  Wars break out, governments collapse, sea levels rise, heat waves destroy crops, new diseases emerge, we develop cancer, we become maimed in a car accident.  These are daily occurances, and they can happen to us at any time.

The lower realms are not far away places, they are simply terrible dreams that begin at death from which we don’t wake up.

(2.58) It is unwise to indulge in pleasures,
Thinking, “At least I shall not die today”;
For without doubt the time will come
When I shall become nothing.

(2.59) Who will grant me fearlessness?
How can I be freed from these fears?
If I shall inevitably become nothing,
How can I continue to indulge?

Most of us pursue a dual strategy of trying to get both the best of Dharma and the best of samsara.   We do this because we think by doing so we can get the best of both worlds.  But we need to check, are we getting the best of neither?  Is that how we feel — that we are getting the best of both worlds?   Is it enough to just get through this life OK?  What will we do when we die?

We have enormous inner tension because we are trying to hang on to both samsara and the Dharma.  We are holding on to contradictory desires.  We still have a taste for samsara’s pleasures.  We feel we can enjoy Dharma and enjoy samsara.  People say all the time that it is hard.  The only reason why it is hard is because we are trying to hold on to contradictory desires.

We have a choice, either let go of the Dharma and have all of the sufferings of samsara come crashing down on us or let go of samsara and go from joy to joy to enlightenment.   To let go of samsara we simply need to identify the deception.  When we know we are holding a burning pan, we have no difficulty letting go.  It is the same with samsara.  We just need to see samsara for what it is and we will have no difficulty letting go of it entirely.

The choice is ours.

Modern Bodhisattva’s Way of Life:  Don’t forget to swallow.

(2.54) If I need to follow the doctor’s advice
When frightened by an ordinary illness,
How much more necessary is it to follow Buddha’s advice
When perpetually afflicted by the many harmful diseases of the delusions?

The more I study Buddha’s teachings, the more I come to the conclusion that we really only have one problem:  we have misdiagnosed what our problem is.  We spend all of our energy trying to solve the wrong problem, and we completely neglect addressing our real problem.

Yes, of course, we need to try improve our external circumstances, but if we change our circumstances without changing our mind, we will soon find ourselves with exactly the same problems as before, just with different faces.  There was a woman once who lived in L.A., and she convinced herself that Californians were the problem.  So she packed her bags and moved to North Carolina.  At first, she loved it, but within a year she was just as depressed as she was before, lamenting how everyone was awful in North Carolina as well.  She may have changed her environment, but she didn’t change her mind.  Her mind simply re-projected its problems onto a new canvas of karmic appearance.

If there is a smudge on a movie projector lens, it will project an image on the screen that looks smudged.  We wouldn’t go up to the screen and start scrubbing it to try improve the image, instead we would clean the lens.  In the same way, if the lens of our mind has the smudge of delusions, it will project an image on reality reflective of that delusion.  Changing the external appearance won’t solve the problem, only removing the delusion will.

Universities and libraries are filled with theories, methods and teachings for how to change and manipulate the external environment, but ultimately all such methods will fail to improve human happiness unless they address the real “projector” of the problems, namely our own deluded mind.  Buddha’s teachings explain to us how to do so.  This does not mean only Buddha’s teachings work.  Anything that opposes delusion is, directly or indirectly, Dharma, even if it is not presented in a Buddhist context.  The point is if we want to solve our real problem, namely our delusions, then we need to rely upon teachings that explain how to do so.

(2.55) If all the people living in this world
Can be greatly harmed by just one of these delusions,
And if no medicine other than Dharma
Can be found anywhere to cure them,

(2.56) Those who do not act in accordance with the Dharma teachings
Given by Buddha, the all-knowing physician,
Through which all pains of the delusions can be removed,
Are surely foolish and confused.

When any practice is done motivated by a mind of regret, it serves to purify.  Non-virtue can only remain in a deluded mental environment.  In a mind free from delusion, there can be found no cause of suffering.  Our task, therefore, is to cure our mind of the disease of the delusions by taking the medicine of Dharma. Without taking the medicine of Dharma we will not be able to put an end to non-virtue.  We will continue to experience all the harmful effects of non-virtue.

Many of us have been with the Dharma for a long time.  We have been taking the medicine of Dharma, but perhaps we haven’t been swallowing it, or swallowing it all.  We know the taste of the medicine of the Dharma from it being in our mouth. For example, we know the taste of renunciation, “this tastes like renunciation.”  We know the tastes of the different medicines of Buddhadharma.  But we have to ask ourselves, are we swallowing it?  Swallowing so that it is actually curing us of the diseases of the delusions?  Why is it self-grasping is still there? Why is self-cherishing still there? Why is attachment still there?

We need to ask ourselves, are we acting in accordance with Dharma teachings, or not?  Are we practicing Dharma or not?  We know all the Dharma teachings, we know all the delusions, we know their opponents, but we still experience mental and physical suffering.

So how do we stop it?  By taking the medicine of the Dharma.  By applying these opponents.  We know if we are to take the medicine of the Dharma we must be prepared to change. We are resisting like a child that has to swallow some medicine. Every day we’re tasting the medicine of the Dharma.  Are we swallowing, are we allowing the instructions to change us?  We default to the solutions to the temporary problems which don’t require us to change.  If our choice is take a diet pill or start exercising, we choose the pill.

Modern Bodhisattva’s Way of Life:  Have no fear

(2.52) I go for refuge to Arya Vajrapani,
Upon sight of whom all harmful beings,
Such as the messengers of the Lord of Death,
Flee in terror to the four directions.

In the previous posts we discussed the value of generating a healthy fear of our negativity and the lower realms.  The purpose of this fear is to encourage us to go for refuge – to seek our protection.  When a soldier is behind enemy lines, he is in constant danger, but when he comes back to his home base, he is able to feel safe and protected.  In exactly the same way, while the terrors that await us are real, they are no match compared to the infinite power of the Buddhas.

A very close friend of mine once said what I believe to be the best line of Dharma I have ever heard:  “stop telling your Spiritual Guide how big your problems are and start telling your problems how big your Spiritual Guide is!”  Not only are the Buddhas more powerful than our delusions and negativity they are utterly untouchable.  When we are under their protection, we have nothing to fear.  We need to feel their power and have confidence that with their blessings our delusions simply don’t stand a chance.  The enemies of the delusions metaphorically flee in terror in the face of the Buddhas.  The Buddhas are our champios, our defenders,  and our protectors. We need merely put ourself under their care and we will have nothing to fear.

(2.53) Previously I transgressed your advice,
But now, having seen these great dangers,
I go to you for refuge
To quickly dispel my fears.

There are two types of object we have engaged in negative actions towards and therefore two types of power of reliance:  We have engaged in negative actions against living beings.  To correct for that, we generate bodhichitta, which is the exact opposite.  We have also engage in negative actions against holy beings.  To correct for that, we go for refuge, which is the exact opposite.

In the Lamrim teachings, it explains that the mind of refuge has two main causes:  fear and faith.  We generate fear of our negative karma through the power of regret.   We generate faith by turning to the Buddhas seeing them as the solution to our problem of negative karma.  Each Buddha has the ability to bestow certain types of blessings, so we turn to Buddhas who specifically help with purification – Buddhas whose blessings function to purify.

Shantideva is serious about all of this, but we have to ask, are we? How seriously do we take what he’s saying?  Would we take refuge the way he’s doing here?  If we’re experiencing difficulties, suffering, we will sit down and pray to Arya Tara, Medicine Buddha, etc. But how often?  One of the commitments of refuge is to go for refuge again and again.  If we’re only going for refuge once in a while, will we be protected?

Shantideva is calling for help — “a desperate cry.”  Why don’t we? We don’t feel helpless! We don’t invite the holy beings into our daily life because we feel to a great extent that we have control over it without them.  We think, why ask for protection when genuinely from one day to the next we don’t feel any danger?  Generally people read these verses and think there’s something wrong with Shantideva!  We have to realize there’s actually something seriously wrong us.

Modern Bodhisattva’s Way of Life:  Me, an evildoer???

(2.50) To Protector Avalokiteshvara,
Who acts unerringly out of compassion,
I utter this desperate cry for help:
“O Please protect me, an evildoer!”

Normally, when we hear language such as this we cringe.  It just sounds so fire and brimstone, Inquisition-esque, or worse it reminds us of George W. Bush!  But if we are honest, that is exactly what we are.  Let me explain.

If you look at the long arch of our mental continuum, we will see that we have spent virtually all of our past lives in the lower realms.  What do beings do in the lower realms?  The kill their prey, steal from the weak, and torture their enemies.  When we read the descriptions of the lower realms in books like Joyful Path, we shouldn’t think they are describing some distant place, rather they are a description of our own past deeds.  There is no reason to assume we were a saint in the lower realms, there is every reason to assume we were like everybody else.  If a prisoner spent his entire life committing horrific acts, but then one day acted nicely, would we not fairly describe the bulk of his actions as bad?  In the same way, if we spent our countless past lives engaging in evil, but have managed so far in this life to avoid anything that would throw us in prison, can we say we are not an evil-doer?  In this life, we have lied, stolen, cheated, killed insects, said hurtful things, grasped tightly onto wrong views, wished harm on our enemies, etc.  While we may not be as bad as beings in the lower realms, nor as bad as some in this realm, compared to the holy beings our actions are beyond the pale.

As was described in an earlier post, the number one obstacle to our engaging in purification is our total denial of our wrong-doing.  If we can’t admit our wrong deeds, how can we hope to purify them?

Admitting we are an evil-doer does not mean we need to fall into some extreme of guilt and self-hatred at how awful we are.  Self-flagellation is not a stage of the path.  An honest reckoning of our deeds is.  Beating ourself up for our mistakes is actually a form of distraction from actually changing our ways.  So we admit our mistakes without guilt, realize they were driven by being confused by our delusions and through the force of karmic habit, and then we try do better going forward.

(2.51) Seeking refuge, from my heart
I pray to Arya Akashagarbha,
To Arya Ksitigarbha,
And to all the compassionate Protectors.

For purification to be effective, it has to be heart-felt.  When I was a young child, my father was thinking of buying some land right on the edge of a bluff overlooking the city.  Since we were little, he was worried that we might not appreciate the danger the cliff represented.  So he took us literally to the edge, held us tight and safe so we wouldn’t fall, but showed us what lay below.  I do not remember much from my early childhood, but this memory was burned into me forever.  I have since always been wary of getting too close to the edge.

In the same way, we literally need to stare into the abyss of the lower realms and see what lays below.  The compassionate Buddhas, like my father, will take us to the edge, hold us tight and safe so we won’t fall, but then describe to us the terrors that lie below.  Every 21 days, we come to the meditation on the lower realms and do exactly this.  The point is not to scare us, the point is to warn us of the dangers that lie ahead if we do not change our ways.

Irrational fear is destructive, rational fear is protection.  We should have a rational fear of the lower realms.  If we look honestly, it is far more likely we will fall into the lower realms than take another fortunate rebirth.  When adversity strikes, we respond with delusion and negativity.  Delusion and negativity activate further negative karma.  There is no adversity greater than death.  If we generate big delusions with respect to small things, what chance do we have to only generate small delusions with respect to the biggest thing of all – our own death.  And even small delusions are not enough, we need to respond with virtue if we are to have any chance of remaining in the fortunate realms.  How often do we do that now?

 

“Wake me, wake me! Somebody is trying to kill me!”

Occasionally I have very powerful dreams which move my mind in significant ways.  I write about them here so that I don’t forget them and in case others find something useful out of them.

Last night, I was dreaming I was back in my childhood home.  It was night time, and I was asleep.  I was both still a child of around 13 and yet my current age.  I heard what sounded like screaming – terrified screaming – but I couldn’t make out what was being said and it was very faint since I was still asleep.  I then heard it again and realized I had ear plugs in which was why in part I couldn’t hear.  So I took my ear plugs out and then I could hear a little better.  I heard it again and realized it was my mother who was in her bedroom screaming, but I still couldn’t hear what she was saying.  I then tried a little harder to hear her, and then I heard what she was saying.  She was screaming like one does when they are having a nightmare and talking in their sleep, “wake me, wake me!  Somebody is trying to kill me.”  This struck a deep cord in me and I realized I had to go wake her up.  I then went to try go wake her up, but I was so sleepy myself, I couldn’t get up.  I was fading in and out of sleep, struggling to wake up myself.  I heard her again, and said to myself I have to get up to go wake her.  I then recited Avalokiteshvara’s mantra to wake myself up to go get her, but then instead of waking up in my dream to go get her I woke up into my normal waking reality (this world).

I then immediately remembered something my Chinese teacher told me last year when I was going through a particularly difficult time.  In Taiwan, the local religion includes the worshipping of ancestors.  This is much deeper than a superficial, Western preconception about such a thought would allow.  My teacher, who knew my mother had committed suicide and who knew I was a Kadampa practitioner, told me, “Our ancestors, in particular our parents, have a karmic pull on us wherever they are, even after death.  Your mother, having killed herself, is most likely in a very bad place right now and she is reaching out from wherever she is for light and help.  As her son, and as somebody who is developing bodhichitta, she is reaching out desperately to you for help.  Instead of running away, you need to develop compassion for her and start using your practice to try help her wherever she may be.”

I then remembered that I am going to Toronto for the Highest Yoga Tantra empowerments, so no doubt this was my message for why I needed to take the empowerments.  I then recalled that Heruka and Vajrayogini are called, Heruka “Father and Mother” and I remembered something that helped me when I was working through the issues with my father last year, namely that Heruka is my real father and Vajrayogini is my real mother.  I then thought about my Kadampa teachers of this life – Gen Lekma, Kadam Lucy, Gen-la Khyenrab and others and I thought I should make a point to try see them in Toronto if possible.  I then hesitated with the idea of seeing one of my teachers because I had a very difficult and sometimes strained relationship with her.  Her Dharma was perfect, but my relationship with her was not.  I remember she once told me, “don’t impute your mother onto me.”  Then I thought, yes, I should see her too and not run away.  I then hesitated with the idea of seeing Gen-la since he will be so busy at the event itself, but thought I will put in the request and see what happens.  At the very least, I would write him to tell him.

I then started thinking about what all of this means.  I realized my Chinese teacher was right.  I knew it was important when she originally told me, but its deeper meaning became clearer.  My mother most likely is in some sort of hell right now and, due to the close karmic connection I have with her, she is reaching out to me for help even if she doesn’t realize that is what she is doing.  Our problems in our relationship began about the time of the age I was in the dream, around 13 in that house where my mother spent most of her time in her room.  At that time, she basically told me I am now on my own and she kind of checked out of her responsibilities of being a mother.  I remember thinking, “good riddance” and equally thinking she was on her own now too.  Yet this hurt, because what child does not want love from their mother.  At first I couldn’t hear her because I had ear plugs in.  This is how mentally I have blocked out thinking about her because I want to run away and it hurts too much.  But plugging your ears to the screams of samsara is not a solution to them.  She was trapped in a nightmare and was begging to be woken up so she could escape it.  This is our samsaric condition.  I wanted to go help her, but couldn’t because I too was still asleep.  I couldn’t wake up myself.  This is my samsaric condition.  It was the heart-panging compassion I felt at the idea of my mother trapped in a terrifying nightmare that made me resolve I need to wake up myself so I can go help her.  This is my bodhichitta.  I couldn’t wake up on my own.  This is the truth of we can’t make progress on the path without the help of the three jewels.  But through the power of Avalokiteshvara’s blessings, I was able to wake up.  But I did not wake up in the dream itself, rather I woke up into this reality.  At first I thought, “oh, the dream suffering disappeared when I woke up, none of it was really happening” in typical understanding emptiness style.  But then I recalled what my Chinese teacher told me and realized even if it is all a dream, the real dream I need to wake my mother up from is the samsaric dream she is actually experiencing somewhere right now; and the dream I need to wake up from to be able to help her is the one I am having right here, right now.  To do this, I need to re-establish karmic relationships with my old teachers and with my Sangha friends.  In particular, in Toronto I hope to speak with my old teachers and also with my old friends, Kelsang Khedrub, Kelsang Pagpa, Kadam Olivier, Kelsang Wangden, among others.

Modern Bodhisattva’s Way of Life:  Offering ourself as purification

(2.48) Likewise, I sincerely go for refuge
To the Dharma they have realized,
Which dispels the fears of samsara,
And to the assembly of Bodhisattvas.

Our self is imputed upon our body and mind.  Up until now, we have – unwittingly – offered both to our delusions.  We are slaves to our delusions and we do whatever they ask of us.  Our thoughts are ruled by them and our bodily actions are as well.  For as long as we continue to make this mistake, we will forever remain enslaved by them and liberation and enlightenment will be impossible.

Instead, we need to offer ourself – meaning both our body and our mind – to the three jewels.  The function of delusions is to deceive us into engaging in actions that damn us to the lower realms.  The function of the three jewels is to enlighten us into engaging in actions that free both ourself and all living beings from suffering forever.  The choice is ours, but we must choose.  There is no middle ground between delusion and wisdom.  They are necessarily mutually exclusive.

To offer our mind to the three jewels means to make our every thought consistent with the Dharma.  The Dharma is a way of thinking.  We adopt that way of thinking as our own.  It is not enough to simply start parroting the Dharma we have heard, we need to do the internal work to convince ourselves of its truth by dispelling all wrong views.  The essential meaning of contemplation is “testing the truth” of the teachings.  We engage in this exercise with intellectual integrity, prepared to change our views where proven wrong.  We then examine for ourself whether the teachings are true and reliable.  Everybody who has engaged in such an exercise with an open mind has come to the same conclusion – “yep, that’s right.”  It is also not enough to just have faith that the teachings are true when we don’t really understand why.  Faith is good, wisdom realizing the truth of things ourselves is better.  Only wisdom has the power to actually free us from the control of our delusions.

(2.49) Overcome with fear, I offer myself
To Arya Samantabhadra,
And I offer my body into the service
Of Arya Manjushri.

To offer our body to the three jewels means to offer it into their service.  What does this mean in practice?  Sometimes people think it means we need to go become a slave for the Spiritual Guide, bringing them dinner and tea, and working long hours for Dharma centers.  For some, that may be the case, but for most people that’s not realistic nor even desirable.  To offer ourself into the service of the three jewels quite simply means to offer ourself into the service of all living beings.  The Buddhas have only one objective – to benefit all living beings, indeed to eventually lead them all to everlasting happiness.  When we dedicate ourselves to the same purpose, we offer ourself into the service of the three jewels.

What are the advantages of doing this?  First, all of our actions become powered by all the blessings of all of the Buddhas.  If a sail on a sail boat is not aligned properly with the wind, the boat will not go anywhere even if the wind is howling.  But when the sails are aligned with the wind, the boat is pushed forward.  In the same way, the pure winds of the blessings of all the Buddhas are constantly blowing around us.  They always point in one direction:  the enlightenment of all beings.  When we align the sails of our mind with this objective, their pure winds fill our sails pushing us swiftly and effortlessly towards enlightenment.

Second, all of our actions become causes of our own enlightenment.  Because we work for the enlightenment of all beings, the karma we create while doing so is necessarily non-contaminated.  Since the final purpose of our actions is beyond samsara, the karma we create takes us beyond samsara.  It is as if our body becomes an extension of the body of all the Buddhas in this world, where they act through us but we get the karma.

Third, we are happy all of the time.  Our happiness, quite simply, depends upon whether our mind is at peace or not.  When our mind is controlled by delusions, our mind is rendered unpeaceful.  That is the function of delusions.  The root of all delusions is the self-centered mind (self-cherishing and self-grasping).  Working for all others is the opposite of all delusions, and so it functions to oppose all delusions.  Virtue functions to make the mind peaceful and controlled.  There is no virtue greater than cherishing others because all other virtues flow from it.  Dedicating ourself to the service of others fills our mind with virtue, which makes our mind peaceful and enables us to be happy all of the time.  Even a superficial look around us shows that the selfish are miserable and the selfless are happy.  The question is who do we want to be?

Modern Bodhisattva’s Way of Life:  Making our purification practice qualified

Perhaps we still don’t appreciate just how much negative karma remains on our mind from our previous lives.  Perhaps we even look back over this life and think “I haven’t been that bad.”

The heart of purification is admitting our negativity.  If for whatever reason we can’t honestly admit it, our purification practice will lack sincerity and power.  We may superficially appear to be engaging in purification, but we won’t actually be cleaning up the karma on our mind.  If we don’t actually admit our actions are negative, we won’t regret them nor their karmic consequences, instead we will rationalize why they are not so bad.  If we don’t admit our actions were mistaken, we will have no real desire to change our ways.  If we don’t wish to change, then our turning to the three jewels will lack any real meaning or purpose.

When we engage in purification, it is generally more powerful if we have some specific negativity in mind.  It is true we can engage in generalized purification, but there is a tendency for this type of purification practice to become quite abstract.  But when we have a specific type of negative karma in mind, such as purifying all of the wrong views that prevent us from realizing we are bound for the lower realms if we don’t change our ways and purify our negative karma, then our purification practice becomes much more qualified and “real.”

One question we can ask ourselves is what exactly are we purifying?  If we don’t have something specific in mind, we won’t be purifying.  In particular we need to look at our vows: for example with respect to our Pratimoksha, Bodhisattva, and Tantric vows, we can go through all of our vows and ask ourselves honestly, “have I done anything wrong with respect to these?”  If we’re honest, we incur downfalls every single day of our life.  The truly amazing thing is we don’t even see it.  We tell ourselves, “I’m doing my best as a Bodhisattva”, but we use this as an excuse for doing nothing.  We need to check, how important do we feel it is not to incur a downfall?   We need to ask ourselves when we do go against our vows, what specific karma is placed in the mind?  What will the results of these actions be?  We need to examine carefully why we haven’t even looked at what the downfalls are or made any plans to avoid them?   Is it that we don’t want to look because we don’t want to change?  Is it because it requires changing our behavior?  Now is the time to really check how we feel about these things.

(2.47) Therefore, from today I go for refuge
To the Conqueror Buddhas who protect living beings,
Who seek to give refuge to all living beings,
And who, with their great strength, eradicate all fear.

Buddhas can help us with our purification practice in two main ways.  First, their powerful blessings function like a drop of soap dropped into a greasy pool of liquid, the grease is immediately dispelled.  Their blessings effectively neutralize the negative karma on our mind, disarming the karmic bombs we carry with us wherever we go.  Christians believe if they generate faith in Christ they will be saved from their sins.  How exactly does this work?  Each enlightened being has a “specialization,” where their blessings specifically function to help living beings in a particular way.  When people generate faith in Christ, for example, their mind opens up to receive his blessings.  His “special blessings” function to “take” the negative karma on our mind and have it ripen upon him in the form of his sufferings leading up to and including his crucifixion on the cross.  Christians understand his suffering on the cross is his having taken the consequences of our sins upon himself.  Understanding this karmic mechanism, we can say with confidence that Christian practices do indeed work.  In exactly the same way, the special blessings of Vajrasattva and the 35 Confession Buddhas likewise help us purify our negative karma through our generating faith in them.

The second way Buddha’s help with our purification practice is by helping us change our ways.  It is good to engage in purification practices, but such practices alone are not good enough if they are not accompanied with the power of the promise to change our negative ways.  We should not be like Don Corleone in the Godfather who confesses in Church while his hit men kill his enemies.  We should not be like the smoker who promises to quit, only to start up again the next day.  Buddhas can also give us the strength and wisdom to change.