Author: Kadampa Ryan

Modern Bodhisattva’s Way of Life: Write Your Own Commentary

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Shantideva now goes on to describe what our life will be like if we don’t follow the path of wisdom. Actually, he is describing what our life is like now.

(9.154ab) I beseech you, O reader, who are just like me,
Please strive to realize that all phenomena are empty, like space.

Again and again throughout Shantideva’s guide he portrays himself as no different than us. He is just a practitioner, striving to do his best to progress along the bodhisattva’s path. He wrote his Guide as a personal practice to try deep in his own familiarity with the teachings that he has received.  His Guide is his own personal meditation on the bodhisattva’s path he compiled to clarify it within his own mind. Geshe-la’s commentary to the Guide to the Bodhisattva’s Way of Life is called Meaningful to Behold. The meaning of this is Shantideva said that he prepared the guide to familiarize himself with the teachings, but if others find it meaningful, then all the better. When Geshe-la looks at the Guide to the Bodhisattva’s Way of Life, he finds it something to be meaningful to behold, and he encourages us to do the same.

I have spent the last many years providing my understanding of Shantideva’s Guide to Bodhisattva’s Way of Life. This for me has likewise been my own personal meditation on what Shantideva has written. By familiarizing myself with what he said, and writing down my understandings of what it means, I have clarified to an extent by own understanding of the bodhisattva’s path. I have shared my understanding on my blog in the hopes that others might also find these reflections helpful.

In the last few years of Geshe-la teaching publicly, he said many times that we need to write our own commentaries to the practices he has given us. He provides us this encouragement not to replace his commentaries, but rather to deep our familiarity with the teachings. By writing down our understandings, it forces us to clarify our thoughts about the Dharma. I have found this to be incredibly helpful and beneficial over the last many years. Writing this series of post has in many ways been one of my most important spiritual activities. None of what I say here should ever be considered definitive, it is just simply my understanding as of the time in which I wrote these words.

All of the buddhas that came before us were once practitioners just like us. They were full of delusions, worries, and preoccupations just like us. But they felt a spark of inspiration and decided to use their precious human life to familiarize themselves with Dharma. Overtime, their familiarity grew and grew and they became happier and happier. They then sought to share their understandings with others in the hopes that they too could find a similar happiness.

On Making Effort to Receive Buddha’s Blessings and Sangha’s Help:

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While it is of course true that our Guru’s mind (the synthesis of all Buddha’s minds) is constantly bestowing blessings on the minds of all living beings every day just as the sun is always shining above the clouds, from our side there is much we can and indeed have to do to be able to actually RECEIVE blessings. The fact that Buddha’s blessings are always available and s/he is always BESTOWING blessings does not mean we are RECEIVING them. We have to create openings in our mind for that light to enter. We have to open the blinds for the light to come in.

It is true all living beings might receive blessings every day, but receiving those blessings has a cause that we ourselves engaged in – perhaps not at that moment, perhaps not even in this life, but at some point in our infinite past lives. The laws of karma are quite clear: if the cause is not created, the effect cannot be experienced. We can consider the story of Angulimala (I think it was him). It was said that you needed some degree of virtue in your mind to ordain and Buddha’s seers couldn’t find any in his dark mind. But Buddha saw he was a fly on dung in the rain circumambuling a stupa. That created a tiny aperture for the light of the blessings to come in, and from that the rest could follow.

In any event, it is clear that there are things we can do – and should do – to receive blessings even more. Our refuge commitment is to MAKE EFFORT to RECEIVE blessings. There are things WE need to do from our side to train in this refuge commitment to be able to receive even more light into our mind. It is not an on/off switch, but a volume knob. The more we do these things, the more we create the causes to actually receive blessings, and the more blessings we receive.

First, our pride blocks blessings from flowing in just as surely as blinds block the sunlight. The degree of our pride determines how closed the blinds are.

Likewise, the greater our faith, the more we melt the snows on the snow mountain of our guru’s mind. More faith = more blessings.

Additionally, we can improve our motivation to align it with the motivation of our guru and our reasons for WANTING (also not a passive thing) to receive blessings. Buddha may bestow blessings equally on all living beings, but surely we RECEIVE more blessings if our motivation is bodhichitta versus some selfish motivation for wanting blessings. If we align the sails of our mind with the pure winds of our guru’s blessings (that always blow in the direction of the city of enlightenment) then the more blessings flow into our mind.

We can also increase how much we receive blessings by considering how our guru, the blessings, and our mind are all equally empty, like the space between three different bottles subsequently broken. When we think Buddhas exist independently of our mind, we create this obstruction as if their mind is there and our mind is here and there is no way for the blessings to flow in. When we realize the emptiness of the three spheres of receiving blessings, we break down these obstructions.

Further, the degree of our concentration when we are engaging in the mental action of receiving blessings will determine how much blessings are able to flow in. We have all engaged in group pujas with the recording and been distracted when the part of the sadhana for receiving blessings occurs. Did we RECEIVE as many blessings as we would have if we weren’t distracted?

So from my perspective, it seems very clear there are many things we need to do from our side to fulfill our refuge commitment to Buddha – reduce our pride, increase our faith, align our motivation with his, remember emptiness, concentrate single-pointedly, etc. It doesn’t just happen automatically or passively. If it seems like it does, this is actually just us burning up our merit from our past actions of doing the things we need to do to receive blessings. There are no effects without a cause.

To go further, I would say there are many disadvantages to thinking receiving blessings is a passive thing. First, we then think there is nothing we need to do to accomplish our refuge commitment to MAKE EFFORT to RECEIVE blessings, so we fail to create those causes. Second, we can fall into despair and discouragement thinking there is nothing we can do about the fact that we are not feelin’ it anymore, like we are a passive experiencer of our fate. Third, we can get into the weird narratives of our guru is upset at us and withholding his blessings, what did I do wrong, is he punishing me or does he no longer love me? There are many other disadvantages of the view that receiving blessings is a passive thing I’m sure we can consider.

All this leads me to think perhaps there are also things we need to do to MAKE EFFORT to RECEIVE Sangha’s help. This too is not a passive thing, even if Sangha from their side do want to help all the time. There are conditions we need to create in our mind – indeed the same conditions as for receiving blessings – for us to actually receive Sangha’s help. The more we create those causes, the more help we might be able to receive.

This is a deep practice, actually. For me, I often try be their spiritual Rambo doing it all on my own, and the more I’m experiencing extreme difficulty in my life, the more I close up and isolate myself to work it all out on my own. This is sometimes appropriate to do, but it can also many times be a big mistake. I think I do this because I have been betrayed in my life many times by the people I have counted on. I put my faith in them, then when it is my time of need, they fail to show up or worse they betray that trust and drive the knife in deeper. Of course I created the causes for them to do that to me, but still it has left me often not making effort to receive Sangha’s help. I’m hurt enough at such times, I couldn’t take finding out that I can’t count on Sangha too. I have to push myself to ask for their help.

There are also all sorts of pride reasons and strange notions about how I can’t show I’m deluded for fear of people losing faith in me or whatever (a very common neurosis amongst so-called “senior practitioners” or “Dharma teachers” – not that I consdier myself either of these things).

In short, like all of our Dharma practices, receiving Buddha’s blessings and receiving Sangha’s help are things we need to do. We need to make effort to do these things. If we fail to do so, we actually haven’t entered Buddhism and the rest of our practice lacks a foundation at best or is a sham at worst – we are practicing performative Buddhism, not Kadampa Buddhism.

But perhaps I am wrong about all this. If so, please explain why. Me asking is me making effort to receive Sangha’s help. 😉

Modern Bodhisattva’s Way of Life: The Most Important Verse in Chapter 9…

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(9.153) When examined in this way, who lives in this world
And who is it who will die?
What will happen in the future and what happened in the past?
Who are our friends and who are our relatives?

This is one of Shantideva’s most famous verses. Geshe-la quoted it often in his teachings on emptiness at various spring and summer festivals. With these very simple questions, we are able to completely pull the plug on the vast majority of the delusions that arise in daily life. It is definitely worth memorizing this verse and using it like a mantra whenever we find ourselves worried or stressed about daily life. Or when we find ourselves obsessing over certain possibilities, thinking we cannot be happy unless those things come to pass. Indeed, I would say if we were to only memorize one verse out of the entirety of Chapter 9, it would be this verse. It is in effect our practice during the meditation break.  We should recite this verse again and again while contemplating deeply upon its meaning as it relates to are delusions arising at any given moment.

In the beginning, when we apply wisdom to overcome our delusions it will not have much power compared to some of our vast path teachings, such as love and compassion. If we are impatient for results, we can easily and quickly give up on using wisdom to try to overcome our delusions. This is a big mistake. Wisdom gains its power overtime following an exponential curve. During the COVID crises, we all saw the many graphs about exponential growth of case number.  For a very long time the number of cases remained very low and it seemed as if there was not much going on, but it was growing in an exponential way. Then at some point the curve starts to go up quite quickly and exponential growth takes off almost like a rocket. It is exactly the same with our using wisdom realizing emptiness to overcome our delusions. In the beginning it does not seem to be doing much, but as we gain more familiarity the power of these ways of thinking grows exponentially within our mind and after a period of time it starts to become the most powerful tool we have in our spiritual toolbox. By investing our time early in applying these reasons again and again, we will later enjoy a rich reward and be able to radically chop the root of any delusion that arises.

This verse is the doorway to such experience. The more we train in it, the more power it will gain within our mind, until later in the future we will be able to overcome almost any delusion we have simply by reciting this first while contemplating on its meaning. I pray that everyone reading this post makes the firm decision to take the time to memorize this first and to gain experience with it in their daily life until eventually it becomes a universal panacea able to overcome all of their delusions.

Well, who lives in this world, who are our friends and who are our relatives?  There is no one there, there is just an appearance of somebody being there.  When we check, we will find nothing more than a mere appearance, like a hologram or an illusion.  The only difference between the illusory woman and the real woman is it is a different type of illusion arising from different causes and conditions.  But their status of being illusions is the same.

We are so concerned with what has happened, is happening and will happen to us.  Because our self-cherishing makes us think we are important, we think what happens to us is very important, so we are naturally quite concerned.  Almost all of our problems arise from this.  But what has happened to us in the past?  Nothing.  What is happening to us now?  Nothing.  What will happen to us in the future?  Nothing.

Just because nothing is happening does not mean we don’t still need to respond correctly.  Everything is a reflection of our mind, so if we respond incorrectly the appearances will grow worse and we could lose our understanding of emptiness, and then we will perceive ourselves as having big problems.  If we respond correctly to whatever arises, then the appearances will gradually improve until eventually we construct the pure land.  We also do not deny the function of objects within the world of appearances.  So we do have to be concerned with what happens.  But because we know that these appearances are coming from our mind, we realize if we want to change the appearances, we need to change our mind.

Happy Protector Day: The nature and function of Dorje Shugden

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The 29th of every month is Protector Day.  This is part 5 of a 12-part series aimed at helping us remember our Dharma Protector Dorje Shugden and increase our faith in him on these special days.

In this post, I will explain the nature and function of Dorje Shugden.  In the subsequent posts I will explain how to rely upon him outside of formal meditation and then I will explain how to rely upon him during the formal meditation session. 

What is the nature and function of Dorje Shugden?  In short, his nature is the same as our Spiritual Guide, but in particular he is by nature the Wisdom Buddha Manjushri.  Manjushri assumes two forms, Je Tsongkhapa to lead us along the path and Dorje Shugden to arrange the conditions for our practice of the path.  His function is to arrange all the outer, inner and secret conditions necessary for our swiftest possible enlightenment.

To understand this in more detail, we can consider the meaning of the invitation prayer to Dorje Shugden that we recite every day in the context of our Heart Jewel practice.  The Sadhana beings by saying,

HUM, I have the clarity of the Yidam.

With HUM we dissolve everything into the clear light Dharmakaya and recall that the definitive nature of Dorje Shugden is the Truth Body of our Spiritual Guide.  ‘I have the clarity of the Yidam’ means we engage in our Dorje Shugden practice self-generated as our personal deity.  We do this for two reasons.  First, it is more effective.  Heruka is much closer to Dorje Shugden than we are, so by requesting Dorje Shugden as Heruka we tap into their close karmic connection.  It is similar to knowing somebody who knows somebody very powerful.  We may not know the powerful person ourselves, but if we know somebody who does know them, if they ask the powerful person to fulfill our wishes on our behalf, it is far more likely we will get the response we want.  The second reason why we do this is the practice of Dorje Shugden can be engaged in for the sake of ourself or for the sake of others.  When we eventually become Buddha Heruka our work is not finished – we will still need to lead all other beings to enlightenment.  At that time, we will need powerful allies who can help living beings, such as Dorje Shugden.  Training in the practice of Dorje Shugden while maintaining divine pride of being the deity is a very powerful method for having Dorje Shugden accomplish his function for all those that we love.

Before me in the center of red and black fire and wind.

Here, we imagine that encircling all the living beings we are visualizing around us is a large proection circle of Dorje Shugden made out of five-colored wisdom fires.  It is like a giant sphere which completely envelopes all of these beings and the entire universe.  I like to imagine that all living beings are now inside of the protection circle and everything that happens to them is perfect for their swiftest possible enlightenment. 

On a lotus and sun trampeling demons and obstructors is a terrifying lion powerful and alert.

The function of Dorje Shugden’s lion is to dispel all fear.  It is a bit like in the movie Narnia, when people were in the presence of Aslan, they knew they were safe and they had nothing to fear.  If ever we are in a situation where we are afraid, we can remember the protection circle of Dorje Shugden and we can remember his lion and strongly believe that we are protected and that we receive his blessings which pacify all of our fear. 

Upon this sits the Great King Dorje Shugden, the supreme heart jewel of Dharma protectors.

Dorje Shugden is the principal deity of the visualization.  There are a couple of different analogies we can consider to get a feeling for who he is.  He is our karma manager.  Rich people give their money to money managers to manage their money in an optimal way.  In the same way, Dorje Shugden is the supreme karma manager.  He will manage our karma in an optimal way for our swiftest possible enlightenment.  He is also our personal spiritual trainer.  When people want to get their bodies in shape, they go to a personal physical trainer who gives them the specific exercises they need to get in the peak of physical health.  In the same way, Dorje Shugden is our personal spiritual trainer who gives us the specific exercises we need to put ourselves in the peak of spiritual health, full enlightenment.  He is our spiritual father.  Our father protects us from danger and provides us with everything we need.  In the same way, Dorje Shugden is our spiritual father, who will protect us from all danger and provide for us everything we need to accomplish our spiritual goals.  He is the director of our spiritual life.  When people make movies or plays, there is a director who organizes and puts together all the appearances.  In the same way, Dorje Shugden is the director of our spiritual life, who will create a play of appearances around us for the rest of our life that are perfect for our spiritual path.  In a future post, I will explain how he has the power to help us not just in this life and right now, but in all our past and future lives as well.  Yes, we can go back within our past and transform what happened into a cause of our enlightenment!

His body is clothed in the garments of a monk.

This symbolizes his power to assist us with our practice of moral discipline.  We all have bad habits we are trying to abandon, such as smoking, getting angry at people, and so forth; and vows we are trying to keep, such as our refuge, pratimoksha, bodhisattva, and tantric vows, but we are not very successful in doing so.  Dorje Shugden can give us the strength and wisdom we need to abandon these bad habits.  Whenever we feel tempted to break our moral discipline, we can recall Dorje Shugden in front of us dressed in the garments of a monk and request his special blessings to give us the strength to keep our moral discipline. 

Modern Bodhisattva’s Way of Life: How to Use Emptiness to Overcome Our Worldly Concerns

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In these last few verses of the chapter, we receive some final encouragement by Shantideva, strong encouragement to strive for and gain the wisdom realizing emptiness.

With these verses Shantideva primarily shows us how we can apply our understanding of emptiness to practically solving the delusions that arise in our mind and in our daily life. If there is one theme that is important from the entire chapter, it is the necessity of not engaging it as an intellectual exercise but rather as a practical necessity. Here Shantideva shows us how we can use what we have learned to overcome our daily delusions.

(9.151) With objects that are empty in this way,
What is there to gain and what is there to lose?
Who is there to praise me?
And who is there to blame me?

(9.152) With no truly existent benefit or harm,
What is there to be happy or unhappy about?
And, when their ultimate nature is sought,
Where are those who seek a good reputation, and where is what they seek?

Here Shantideva shows how we can use the teachings on emptiness to overcome all of our worldly concerns. What differentiates a worldly being from a spiritual being is their principal object of concern. Worldly beings are primarily concerned with the experiences of this life. A spiritual being is primarily concerned with the experiences of our future lives. A pure being is someone primarily concerned with gaining experiences outside of samsara.

We have to honestly admit how we are still dominated by worldly concerns.  We have these worldly concerns because we are still listening to our self-cherishing, paying attention to its object, rather than neglecting or forgetting about it.  All of the things that we are concerned about, possibly condensed into the eight, are not only empty of meaning, but they are also empty of true existence.

Thus far Shantideva has explained how we can oppose our grasping at our I with wisdom, how we can oppose our grasping at our feelings and so forth with wisdom, now he explains how we can oppose our grasping at the very objects that we feel so strongly about, again with wisdom.  So what is there to gain, what is there to lose?  Nothing.  Whatever we feel there is to gain, whatever we feel there is to lose, we will find upon analysis or examination, nothing.  Who is there to praise me, who is there to blame me?   No one.  We can remind ourself of a previous verse in chapter eight that words of praise are just like empty words in a cave. 

For this to work it has to connect with our heart.  Otherwise we read these things, even we try to understand them, it will make little or no difference because in our heart we still believe the objects of our concern are important and we will be affected by such things.

Perhaps we are afraid to accept this reasoning because we fear we will lose our current objects of happiness.  Actually, we will.  We will no longer be able to enjoy things in a worldly way anymore.  But these things never had the power to give us any happiness anyway, only suffering.  All we need to do is examine our life and realize how the vast majority of our suffering has come from our preoccupation with the worldly concerns. But losing our current objects of happiness and not being able to enjoy things in a worldly way anymore does not mean that we lose our happiness and can no longer enjoy things. Quite the opposite actually. Our normal objects of happiness do not actually have any power to give us happiness, they usually just give us problems. But when we find new spiritual reasons for wanting these things, we can enjoy them in a much more sublime way. Further we find new objects of happiness that are within us that produce and provide much greater happiness than our external objects ever could. This is the essential meaning of finding happiness from a different source.

Abandoning worldly concerns does not mean we no longer seek or need things such as a good reputation, wealth, pleasant experiences and so forth. It means we change our reasons for wanting these things. When we are dominated by worldly concerns, we want these things because we believe they are actually causes of our happiness. With emptiness, we recognize that they have no power whatsoever to give us any happiness because in fact they do not exist at all. So of course they cannot give us the happiness that we seek because there is nothing there. However, this does not mean that praise, wealth, a good reputation, and so forth are without value. If we want these things for pure spiritual reasons so that they can help us fulfill our bodhicitta wishes to lead all of these beings to enlightenment, then there’s absolutely nothing wrong with pursuing them and being concerned about them. What we abandon is our attachment to them, thinking that it is somehow impossible for us to be happy without having these things. We also recognize that they are at best a means to an end, and not an end in themselves.

But we happily do so because by enjoying things in a worldly way, we guarrantee that we will suffer from things in a worldly way.  There are many more objects of worldly suffering than worldly happiness, so this is a rational trade-off.  Further, we will learn to be able to enjoy worldly pleasures in a spiritual way, which is much better, so we have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

Happy Tsog Day: The benefits of cherishing others

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In order to remember and mark our tsog days, holy days on the Kadampa calendar, I am sharing my understanding of the practice of Offering to the Spiritual Guide with tsog.  This is part 30 of a 44-part series.

Seeing that the mind that cherishes mother beings and would secure their happiness
Is the gateway that leads to infinite good qualities,
I seek your blessings to cherish these beings more than my life,
Even if they rise up against me as my enemies.

Just as self-cherishing is the root cause of all our suffering, the mind that cherishes others is the root cause of all our happiness. The logic is exactly the same. All our happiness comes from virtuous actions, and all virtuous actions come from the mind that cherishes other living beings and considers their happiness to be important. All virtuous actions begin by considering that others’ happiness and well-being matters, and therefore works to secure it.

Just as we need to gather all blame into one, so two we need to give all credit to one – namely the mind of cherishing others. Geshe-la explains in Eight Steps to Happiness that the path to enlightenment is very simple: all we need to do is change the object of our cherishing from ourselves to others, and all the other stages of the path to enlightenment will naturally flow from this. Enlightenment depends upon the mind of bodhicitta, the wish to become a Buddha for the sake of others. Bodhicitta depends upon the mind of great compassion, which wishes to protect all living beings from all forms of suffering for all their lives. The mind of great compassion only arises when we consider the suffering of those we love. If we do not love somebody, and we consider their suffering, we do not feel any compassion and we may even feel delight. But when we love somebody, and we see that they are suffering, the mind of compassion naturally arises. There are three types of love: affectionate love, cherishing love, and wishing love. Affectionate love is delighted merely to think or see other living beings, like a loving grandmother seeing her grandchildren. Cherishing love considers the happiness and well-being of others to be important to us, something worth working towards. Wishing love aims to give others happiness. The mind of great compassion depends upon having cherishing love for all living beings. Thus, enlightenment naturally follows simply from the mind that cherishes others.

How do we generate the mind of cherishing others? In this verse and in Eight Steps to Happiness, Geshe-la explains it is sufficient to simply contemplate the benefits of cherishing others and then make the firm determination to do so. We can likewise consider the analogy of viewing all living beings as the body of life. Of course we should cherish every part of our body because it is part of our body; in the same way, of course we should cherish all living beings because they are all part of the body of life. Atisha explains in Advice from Atisha’s Heart that the actual root of cherishing others is learning to appreciate their good qualities and to stop inappropriate attention on their faults. Because we focus on others’ faults, we generate aversion and even hatred towards others, and with such a focus it is impossible to generate the mind that considers what happens to them to be important. But when we focus our attention on the good qualities of others and choose to not pay attention to their faults, then we naturally start to see them as precious and, on this basis, it is easy to then cherish them.

We might object, “but if I do not see their faults then I am not seeing things objectively and they could even harm me.” This is a wrong conclusion. First, there is a difference between not seeing others’ faults and having inappropriate attention towards their faults. Inappropriate attention exaggerates the appearance of faults, and therefore is a mind that is not objective. Second, we need to make a distinction between the person and their delusions. The person is not their delusions, rather their delusions are like clouds in the sky of their mind. Because we make a distinction between the person and their faults, we are able to see the faults for what they are, but not see them as faults of the person and therefore still be able to cherish them. Third, when we see others’ faults and relate to them as faulty, it functions to draw out their worst aspects and it creates self-fulfilling prophecies. Every teacher and every parent can confirm whatever we pay attention to is what we draw out in others. Thus, even if they have faults, it is better for us to focus on their good qualities to help draw them out. Fourth, Venerable Tharchin explains that any fault we see in others is in fact a reflection of that same fault within our own mind. It is only because we have that fault in our mind that we can perceive it in others. This is true because others are fundamentally empty – they are mere projections or reflections of our own mind. Thus, when we see faults in others, we should see them as a mirror reflecting back to us faults that we have within ourselves. He goes on to explain that if we eliminate the fault within our self, it will begin to disappear in others almost like magic. Finally, we can view the appearance of faults in others as a supremely skillful teaching of an emanation of our spiritual guide. Buddhas can emanate all sorts of forms to reveal to us the truth of Dharma. People behaving in faulty ways teaches us to not act in those ways, and therefore they provide us with powerful teachings. Who is to say they are not emanations of Buddha teaching us these lessons? Even if that is not in fact the case, it is still a beneficial way of viewing things, and so we can still perceive the fault, defend ourselves against it, and nonetheless not see any fault in others.

In the sadhana it says that we should cherish others even if they rise up against us as our enemies. There are several reasons for this. First, by cherishing them despite them harming us we are able to purify the negative karma associated with them harming us in some way. If instead we retaliated, we would create once again new negative karma ensuring that others harm us again in the future. Cherishing those who harm us is therefore a way of ending the karmic cycles that we have been trapped in since beginning last time. This is not different than what Jesus advised to turn the other cheek.

Second, Geshe-la once famously explained in Toronto that love is the real nuclear bomb that destroys all enemies. If we cherish our enemies, they will come to view us as their friends, and therefore no longer view us as their enemy. Yes, this process may take time before we bring about a change in their perspective of us, but if we are patient with the process and willing to accept the karmic consequences of our past behavior of viewing them as an enemy, gradually we will turn our relationship around with them. We should be careful though to not misinterpret this to mean that we should cooperate with others’ dysfunctional or abusive behavior. It does not help others for us to enable them and allow them to engage in abuse towards us. Therefore, it can be an act of cherishing others to no longer cooperate with their delusions.

Third, others are only our enemies by mere imputation. If we viewed others as emanations of our spiritual guide, for example, then they would no longer be our enemy, but instead we would see them as our kind teacher. Atisha once had a cook who was very disrespectful towards Atisha. Atisha’s other disciples wondered why Atisha keep kept this cook around when there were so many other disciples who would be more than happy to serve their spiritual guide. Atisha said this disrespectful assistant was in fact very kind to him because this person gave him the opportunity to train in patience, and there’s no virtue greater than patience.

Getting the Most out of Attending the Kadampa Festivals Online

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It’s festival time!  Perhaps in the past we were able to go to the festivals, perhaps even all of them, but for whatever reason this time we are not able to make it.  Fortunately, even if we can’t physically make it to the festival, we can now still attend it online.  What follows are my thoughts on how to make the most of our attending the festival online.  If you haven’t signed up yet, it is not too late.  You can do so right now.

Overcoming Guilt About Not Being Able to Attend Physically

First, we need to dispel the guilt of not being able to go physically.  In the past (perhaps even sometimes now), our Resident Teachers and fellow Sangha would sometimes apply some pressure to try get people to go to festivals, and then make people feel guilty if they were not able to do so.  Such hard-pressure tactics are ultimately counter-productive in the long-run and fortunately slowly people are abandoning them.  But even when they do happen, the person using them is usually well-intended.  Our teachers and Sangha friends know the value of going to the festival and they want us to experience the same thing.  They just sometimes use less than skillful means to try encourage us to do so.  That’s OK, nobody is perfect.

But ultimately, we each have different karma.  For some, it is money problems.  For others, it is inability to get off work or family obligations.  It could be due to sickness or old age – or just the sheer physical distance needed to travel there.  It could be due to inner obstructions.  If somebody else misunderstands our karma and makes us feel guilty about not being able to go, that is their problem, not ours.  Guilt closes our mind to be able to receive blessings.  It ignorantly grasps at the view that just because we can’t physically make it to the festival, we can’t still fully participate in the festival.  We then feel bad about ourselves, give up, and don’t bother to attend virtually. 

This is completely wrong. Sometimes we really want to go, but for whatever karmic reason we are not able to do so.  We need to accept that this will happen.  Mentally, we should always maintain the wish to go physically, never thinking it is unimportant.  If we have a sincere wish, but karmically it is not possible, then we can accept not going physically with a clear conscience.  Maintaining the wish to attend physically while attending online basically takes maximum advantage of the opportunity we have to go given our karma.  Gen Tharchin explains that if we take full advantage of the spiritual opportunities we have, it creates the causes for better opportunities in the future; but if we squander the opportunities we have, we burn up the karma that created them and it will be difficult to find similar opportunities in the future.

Make the Determination to Attend Every Festival – For the Rest of Your Life

Geshe-la has said that gathering together at the festivals is the method for maintaining the tradition for generations to come.  This is what he asked us to do – to make a commitment to attend every festival for the rest of our lives.  

In this sense, I’m so grateful for COVID because it enabled the NKT to make the decision to make the festivals available online from anywhere in the world.  I have very difficult karma when it comes to being able to attend the festivals physically.  But being able to attend them digitally was like a huge gush of fresh air to be able to attend all the festivals as I had done in the past.  I was worried that they wouldn’t continue with the policy after COVID, but I think the NKT administrators realized there are just many people who don’t have the karma to be able to physically make it to the festivals but in their speech and minds they really wanted to be there.  COVID-era festivals proved it is possible to transform our personal environment of our home or local center into the festival experience.  So now they are letting it continue.  How wonderful!

Venerable Geshe-la says attending the festivals is the method for carrying forward the lineage for future generations.  How does this work?  Gen Tharchin says every time we engage in a spiritual practice with others, we create the karmic causes to do the same thing again with the same people in the future.  When we interact with each other as Sangha, we create karmic bonds together around common activities.  The festivals bring together the global sangha into one family, one community, one gathering, to receive the same teachings.  This keeps us all on the same page, both in terms of the teachings but also our karma together.  This is equally true whether we attend the festival physically or online.

We need to have deep appreciation for the value of our tradition so we want to keep it alive for future generations.  If we have this wish and we recall how Venerable Geshe-la said the method for doing so is making the commitment to attend all the festivals for the rest of our life, then we will naturally want to make this determination ourselves.  We are pure, 100% Kadampa teachings, without being mixed with anything.  We are the pure deal, the undilluted form, or rather we are a distinct flavor.  The Kadampa teachings include the Ganden Oral Lineage, through which we can attain enlightenment in one lifetime, even three years!  That’s what we are!  That is our instruction.  That is our uncommon characteristic.  Geshe-la’s presentation of the Ganden Oral Lineage already appears directly to millions in this world, and in the future it will appear to billions.  He has made this precious gem from the heart of Je Tsonkghapa available to all the people of the modern world.  Online festivals will emerge as one of the primary methods for doing so for generations to come.

Attending the Festival is Primarily a State of Mind

If we are unable to go physically, we have to keep in mind “being at a festival,” like all things, depends upon our mind.  It is perfectly possible to be physically at the festival, but mentally not; likewise it is possible to mentally be there while physically not being able to go.  Attending a festival is a state of mind, it is a mental recognition.  If we adopt the state of mind of “being at the festival” then we will experience whatever happens to us during festival time as “our festival.” 

During the empowerments, the teacher always encourages us to develop the recognitions that we are in the pure land receiving the empowerment directly from the guru deity.  We can do this from anywhere, including in our imagination.  The same is true during the teachings.  We can “tune in” from anywhere in the world.  If we have faith and a good motivation, it is definite our mind will be blessed exactly as if we were at the festival physically.

Anybody who has been to a festival knows that everyone’s experience is highly personalized.  If we adopt the mental recognition of being at a festival, then our daily life during this time will become our festival.  The only difference between those who are physically there and those who are not will be what appears.  They will see Manjushri Kadampa Meditation Center (or wherever else in the world the festival is taking place), we will see wherever we are at, but both will be receiving constant teachings through whatever is appearing.  Different things will happen to us during festival time, and these will be our special, personalized teachings.  Different delusions will arise during festival time and different lessons will be learned.  This is equally part of the content of our festival, not just the actual teachings.  Dakas and Dakinis can enter into the bodies of all those around us and we can find ourselves surrounded by Sangha through adopting this view.  Each thing everyone does will become part of our teachings.  Buddhas can teach through anything.  If we view everything as our teachings, everything will teach us.  In this way, we can all attend festival teachings and enjoy the full festival experience no matter where we are in the world.

To help strengthen this recognition, every day during the festival we can make special requests and dedications that Dorje Shugden arrange everything that happens to us during festival time, transforming whatever does happen to us into our personal festival.  His job is to arrange all the outer and inner conditions for our practice; of these two, inner conditions are by far the most important.  He can help protect our inner “festival mind,” and enter into whatever appears (work, family, whatever) so that it becomes our powerful teachings and festival experience.  I like to imagine vast protection circles around me and everywhere I go I try to strongly believe that everything that happens inside the protection circle is part of my festival.

Ultimately, the festival is not happening in England or wherever the festival venue happens to be, rather it is happening in the pure land.  Gen Tharchin explains that the location of the mind is at the object of cognition.  If we think of the moon, our mind goes to the moon.  In the same way, if we think of the pure land, our mind actually goes there.  Since the festival is happening in the pure land anyways, we can mentally imagine (both in and out of meditation) that we are in the pure land with all our vajra brothers and sisters.  If we maintain this recognition, we will go there and be with them. 

Why are festivals spiritually powerful?  If each one of us is a candle, we each have a little bit of light.  But if we all put our candles together, then we make a blazing sun that we all benefit from.  When we come together at festival time, it is like the entire Kadampa family bringing their candles together into a single light.  We don’t have to physically be at the festival venue to add our candle.  Since the festival is actually taking place in the pure land, we can join them all there.  Quite simply:  mentally adopt this recognition and it will be true.

Stay in Contact with your Fellow Online Sangha Friends During the Festival

During the festival, it is a good idea to try stay in close contact with your fellow online sangha friends, just as you would attending the festival physically.  Organize calls with your friends, eat meals “together” via Zoom, discuss the teachings in the various Facebook groups, etc. 

In many ways, we can say that the online Dharma community – on Facebook groups, blogs, podcasts, etc. – is like a year-long festival.  Each time we forge a bond with one another through our interactions online, we are bringing sanghas from around the world in closer karmic proximity to one another.  Sharing the pure Kadam Dharma with each other online now makes the pure Kadam Dharma appear in our future.  This is how we find each other again and again in our future lives.  The conversations we have and the bonds we create with each other on Facebook and other platforms are the threads pulling the Kadampa world together into the emerging digital society.  Our online friendships matter for the future of the living beings in our world.  The whole world is moving increasingly into a digital society where people spend more and more of their lives inside the worlds created by technology.

Geshe-la said we need to go to where the people are. The people are moving into the digital world, so as Kadampas we need to go there too.  That’s why I think the Kadampa digital presence is so important.  We need to make our exchanges together feel like a Kadampa community. We are a digital community of Kadampas.  It is the exact same karmic process as attending the festivals physically.  For those of us who find most of our sangha online, attending the festival together online brings us much closer to one another throughout the year.

Rejoice in Those Able to be There Physically

We can recall all the thousands of people who are physically at the festival and rejoice in their incredible good fortune for being able to be there.  Sometimes if we can’t go to the festival we try rationalize it by saying it is not that important.  We should never think like this because it functions to destroy the karma to have the opportunity to go in the future.  Instead, we should recall how incredibly important it is to go physically (without generating attachment to being able to go) and rejoice for those who are there.  This rejoicing will not only create a vast amount of merit, it will also help create the karmic causes for us to be able to go ourselves again physically in the future (perhaps in future lives, we do not know).  At a practical level, this rejoicing will remind us to maintain the “mind of being at a festival,” thus bringing us back to this important recognition.

We can also ask a friend who is able to go physically to dissolve us into their heart and bring us into the temple with them.  If they do, part of us will actually be there.  We should also feel ourselves to be there in their heart.  When they maintain this recognition, there may be points in the teaching where they think, “ah, this is for my friend back home.”  This is your special advice.  We can also ask them to write us, telling us what is happening and what they are learning, and what messages, if any, they are specifically receiving for us.  Even if they are not able to do so each day during the festival, we can take them to lunch or coffee upon their return and ask them about what they learned.

Organize Viewing Parties at your Local Center

If there are other Sangha friends in your community who are also unable to go, you can organize a “viewing party” at your local center.  Everyone can get together watch the videos, meditate on their meanings, and then discuss it afterwards – just like we would if we were at the festival itself. 

I take great inspiration from the Mormans as a model for how things will likely develop for us.  Every year the Mormons have a “General Council,” which is like their Summer Festival.  There are tens of millions of Mormons around the world now and obviously not all of them are able to make the pilgrimage to Salt Lake City.  As a result, in Mormon temples and prayer halls around the world, they organize “viewing parties” where they watch the videos of the spiritual gathering, then discuss what was taught afterwards.  There is no reason why we can’t do the same.  I would suspect in the future, as we grow in number, we will increasingly do things as the Mormons do. 

Make your Online Festival a Personal Retreat

If we can, take a few days off from work during the festival to be able to attend it like a personal retreat.  If that is not possible and you can’t take off work, make the weekends or your days off special retreat time.  Create retreat boundaries just like you would if you were physically at the festival.

Now that Venerable Geshe-la has passed, how does he continue to appear in this world? As the teacher of every festival. Some people in the future may lament wishing they were able to attend teachings directly with Geshe-la, but I say we all have this opportunity every year for the Spring, Summer, and Fall international festivals.  What appears to our eyes may be this Gen-la or that one, but for us we see it is Venerable Geshe-la teaching the festival through everyone and everything related to the festival (not just the teachings).  This is equally true whether we are physically at the festival or attending it online.

Conclusion 

Attending festivals is one of the most important things we can do for our spiritual life.  The benefits of being at a festival are truly limitless.  But the karma is not always there for us to physically go.  We need to accept this and make the most of it.  By making the most of it, while always maintaining the wish to be able to go again in the future, we create the karmic causes to be able to attend physically later. 

Festival time is a special time regardless of whether we can physically make it to the festival venue itself.  Fortunately, through the power of faith and emptiness, no matter where we may find ourselves in the world, we can all attend the festival with our vajra brothers and sisters every year – just in a different way.  In this way, we can make and keep our commitment to Venerable Geshe-la to attend every festival for the rest of our lives. 

Enjoy!

Modern Bodhisattva’s Way of Life: We Are Who We Choose to Become

Kadampa Ryan 2. Modern Bodhisattva's Way of Life

(9.150) Living beings are like objects in a dream
For, when analyzed, they have no ultimate identity, just like a rainbow.
Thus, in that they both lack true existence, there is no difference
Between nirvana, the state beyond sorrow, and samsara, the state of sorrow.

Shantideva is telling us we have no fixed identity. We have no identity, so we need to stop believing we have one.  We ourselves are empty.  Our samsara is empty.  Nirvana too is empty.  Therefore, we can come to abide in nirvana.  Because we ourselves, samsara and nirvana all lack true existence, we can change from a being abiding in samsara to a being abiding in nirvana. Wonderful!

Nagarjuna says for those who emptiness is impossible, nothing is possible; but for those who emptiness is possible, everything is possible. At present, we grasp at ourselves as being fixed, unchanging, and inherently the person we are today. We hear in popular psychology all of the time we need to be our true self, our authentic self. We tell our children to be who they really are. This always leads to a good deal of confusion amongst kids as they ask themselves the question, well who am I really? They then go searching thinking there must be some inherently them that they are that they need to try and embody. All of this is wrong.

We are who we choose to become. For example, we can decide to impute our I on being a good person. When we do this, we naturally come to embody what a good person would be like. We quite literally become a good person. We see this with professions, when people make decisions to become a doctor, a lawyer, an engineer, a salesperson and so forth. They then say they want to be a good doctor or lawyer, and so they try act in those ways. In exactly the same way, we can decide we want to become a Buddha. Indeed, we can change the basis of imputation of our I from an ordinary being to that of a Buddha. With enough familiarity, this could become our living experience.

From a tantric perspective, we can reinterpret popular psychology talking about identifying with our true self or our authentic self by saying that our authentic self is our Buddha nature. Our Buddha nature is our true self, and the wish to attain renunciation is the wish to free our true self from the prison of our false self created by our self-grasping ignorance. The wish to attain enlightenment is the wish to fully unleash our true self to be of the greatest benefit possible to others. What is the nature of our true self, our Buddha nature? It is our very subtle wind and are very subtle mind. These are our continuously residing body and mind that go with us from life to life. It is our continuously residing body in mind that will eventually transform into the body and mind of a Buddha. It is incorrect to say that it is already a Buddha, but it is correct to say that our very subtle body and mind are the substantial causes that will later transform into the body and mind of a Buddha. There is no inherently existent true self, but there is something that goes with us from life to life and will remain with us forever. The question is whether our true self remains merely a potential or whether we fully actualize it by becoming an enlightened being ourselves. With this understanding, we can agree with people who ascribe to modern psychological theories and merely understand those theories in a more Buddhist way.

We often say that there are five principal aspects of the path: renunciation, bodhichitta, the correct view of emptiness, generation stage, and completion stage. How can we understand how all of these fit together? In reality, there is only one activity on the path, namely changing the basis of imputation of our I from an ordinary samsaric being to a fully enlightened Buddha. There are two reasons why we change the basis of imputation of our I, namely for the sake of ourselves (or renunciation), or for the sake of others (or bodhichitta). There are two levels at which we change the basis of imputation of our I, gross and subtle. At a gross level, we changed the basis of imputation of our I to the gross deity body through the practice of generation stage. And at a subtle level, we change the basis of imputation of our I to the subtle deity body through the practice of completion stage.  All of this is possible because our I, our body, and our mind are all empty of inherent existence. We are not fixed or permanently attached to our ordinary body and mind. We can choose the body and mind we wish to have as the basis of imputation for our I. It will take training, it will take persistent effort, it will take time, but it is possible.

We see how we change the basis of imputation of our I throughout our life. We start out as a baby, we later become a teenager, then later become a young adult, then middle aged, then an older person. In our previous lives, we imputed our I on completely different bodies and minds. Our I is nothing more than a post-it that we can place on anything. Some bases are beneficial and some are harmful. But the choice is ours. And we clearly see the emptiness of our I, then we realize we can quite literally construct an entirely new pure identity and become a Buddha.

A Pure Life: Please Don’t Kill

Kadampa Ryan Precept Days

This is part five of a 12-part series on how to skillfully train in the Eight Mahayana Precepts.  The 15th of every month is Precepts Day, when Kadampa practitioners around the world typically take and observe the Precepts.

The first precept is to abandon killing.  Geshe-la explains the object of killing is any other being from the smallest insect to a Buddha.  In the chapter on karma in Joyful Path, four factors must be present for the action to be complete.  First, for our intention, we must have the correct identification of the person we intend to kill.  We also need a determination to kill the person we have correctly identified.  Killing by accident is not a complete action, though this doesn’t mean there are not negative consequences of accidental killing.  Our mind must also be influenced by delusion, specifically anger, attachment, or ignorance.  It is possible to kill out of compassion to save the lives of others, but this requires great wisdom and courage.  Killing out of compassion is not a downfall since compassion is not a delusion.  The action also requires preparation, namely we prepare the means to engage in the action.  This includes having others do the action for us or engaging in the action as a group.  Finally, it requires the completion – the action must be completed, the person actually is killed and dies before we do.

The reality is we are killing all of the time.  Every time we scratch our arm, we are no doubt killing thousands of tiny bacteria or microbes.  Even if we do not eat meat, we are indirectly killing thousands of insects who died in the rice paddies or to the pesticides sprayed on our food.  Samsara is a slaughterhouse, and everything we do essentially kills.  This doesn’t mean we are doomed and it also doesn’t mean we shouldn’t bother trying to not kill because it is unavoidable.  What it means is we need to do our best to lead as low impact of a life as we can.  We should work gradually to kill less and less while working within our capacity and the karmic conditions we find ourselves in.

There are also many forms of negative actions that are adjacent to kill it that we should also try avoiding. For example, rejoicing in negative actions is karmically similar to engaging in those actions ourselves. Virtually every day on the news there are reports of people being killed in some form of military conflict. The United States, for example, has been at war nonstop for essentially the last 25 years. Our soldiers are killing people on an almost daily basis and the news is typically reported as a success story of having killed some “terrorists” or some other perceived enemy. These reports are designed to generate a mind of rejoicing in such killing. While this is not us killing ourselves, when we rejoice in such activities, we create karma similar to killing others.

There are also many subtle forms of killing that we may not even be aware of nor our role in perpetuating the systems that engage in such killing. Social scientists have coined the term structural violence to refer to societal structures that function to shorten the lives of particular groups of people. For example, due to structural racism in the United states, people of color tend to have worse access to health care, higher rates of poverty, lower rates of education, suffer from higher rates of crime, and so forth all of which contribute to shortened life spans compared to most white people. One study estimates that 8,000,000 African Americans are missing compared to what should be if structural racism did not exist. These are the victims of a form of unintentional slow-motion genocide.

Once we are aware that such structures exist and inflict violence, even if a subtle form of violence, against certain populations and then we do nothing to correct for it or we even seek to rationalize away such effects by denying it is occurring or it is justified based upon some arbitrary criteria, then we are participating in or enabling a subtle form of killing.  We may even be voting for such policies.  Even simply benefiting from such structures and not using our surplus privilege associated with being at the top of such structures to dismantle them, is a form of perpetuating them. These things would not be a violation of our Mahayana precepts per se, but they do move in a direction similar to the action of killing.  As Mahayana practitioners, we should be striving to move in the direction of not killing. And we should cast the net wide to avoid even subtle forms.

Mother’s Day for a Kadampa

Kadampa Ryan 7. Kadampa meaning of special days

As Kadampas who practice the Lamrim, every 21 days is Mother’s Day.  We are all quite familiar with the various contemplations of how all living beings are our mother and how kind they were to us as our mother, therefore we should develop a profound feeling of gratitude towards our mother of this life and all our mothers of our past lives.  Very often though, primarily because we make our meditations intellectual exercises of recalling certain points as opposed to exercises of the heart where we change our feelings, these contemplations on the kindness of our mother no longer really move our mind.  We might recall them, but we don’t internalize them and let them touch our heart.  On actual Mother’s Day, we should take the time to reflect deeply and sincerely upon them so that our heart moves and we genuinely feel gratitude and a wish to repay our mother’s kindness.

Have we always neglected our mothers?

I sometimes wonder if ancient Tibetan culture was the same as our modern culture.  In modern culture, particularly in modern psychology, the trend is to blame our mother for all of our problems.  We are encouraged to go back into our childhood and find all the different ways our mother made mistakes and how that is “the underlying cause” of why we are the way we are today.  We likewise completely take for granted everything our mother has done for us.  As kids, we are completely blind to it. 

We think it is “normal” that our mothers do everything for us, and we feel “justified” in getting angry with them when they don’t do it perfectly.  In truth, our mother could have just abandoned us on the street.  She owes us nothing.  Nobody owes us anything.  It is our expectation that they do that actually prevents us from appreciating all that she did for us.  It is the very nature of modern motherhood to give everything you have to your kids only to have them take your kindness for granted, blame you for all of their problems, and want to have nothing to do with you because you are such an embarrassment.  Perhaps it has always been such, which is why the meditation on the kindness of our mothers has always been taught.

It’s time to apologize for being such a jerk

On Mother’s Day, I think it is important to not just express our gratefulness, but to sincerely apologize for what a jerk we have been to her over the years.  Explain that when you were a kid, you didn’t understand, and now it is only as an adult (and perhaps a parent yourself) that you are beginning to realize all she did for you.  Apologize for yelling, apologize for disobeying, apologize for being embarrassed by her, apologize for ignoring her, and apologize most of all for taking for granted all that she has done for you.  Explain to her that all of your good qualities now come from her. 

My father once said about his mother, “everything good in our family comes from Grandma.  That’s the truth.”  This is a perfect attitude.  It is the truth.  The truth is mother’s really struggle with the fact that everything they do is taken for granted and that they are blamed for everything.  Yes, it is good for them in terms of being able to learn how to give love unconditionally, but it is hard.  All it takes is one honest conversation where you admit you were a real butt with her, and where you express sincere gratitude for everything you previously took for granted.  Such a conversation can heal decades of grief.

No, our mothers aren’t perfect, but why should we expect them to be?

Sometimes when we encounter the meditation on the kindness of our mothers we develop all sorts of objections because it is true, our mother did make a lot of mistakes.  My mother had all sorts of serious mental health issues, we had an off and on terrible relationship until eventually she likely killed herself on my wedding day.  I had all sorts of resentments towards her for years, then I had guilt after her suicide, and now I find it difficult to think anything good about her.  All I see is her many faults and delusions.  Most of us have problems of one kind or another with our mothers.  I personally feel it is vital that we identify the delusions we have towards our parents, in particular our mother, and work through them.  We need to get to the point where our mind is completely healed of all delusions towards them.  This is not only a way of repaying the kindness of our mother, it is a way of healing our own mind.

Our mothers were not perfect, they made many mistakes, and they were full of delusions.  This is also true, and acknowledging that fact is not a denial of their kindness.  We can hold the view that they were emanations of Buddhas who appeared to make the mistakes that they did to give us a chance to grow.  Every child grows up cataloging the many mistakes their parents make and resolves when they are parents they won’t do the same thing; only to find when they do become parents they wind up making many of the same mistakes.  The power of osmosis with our parents is the most powerful force shaping our lives and shaping our mind.  It is not enough that we heal our mind of all the delusions we have towards our mother, we also need to look into our mind and identify all the delusions we received from her. 

Venerable Tharchin once told me the only reason why the people in our life appear to have delusions is because we ourselves possess the same delusions within our own mind and we therefore project beings who have the same faults.  Our task, therefore, is to identify within ourselves the delusions that appear in others and then root them out completely.  When we do so, he said, several amazing things will happen.  First, our relationship with the person will improve.  Second, we will have less delusions in our own mind.  And third, the faults we see in the other person will gradually “disappear.”  Why?  Because they were never coming from the other person in the first place.  He concluded by saying, this is how Bodhisattva’s ripen and liberate all beings.  When we attain Buddhahood, he said, it appears to us as if everybody attains Buddhahood at the same time with us.  In fact, we see that they have always been so.  If we love our mother, this is essential work.

Tara is our eternal mother

Mother’s Day, though, is about much more than just our relationship with our own mother of this life, or even recalling the kindness of all our past mothers.  I think on Mother’s Day we need to recall the kindness of our Spiritual Mother, Guru Arya Tara.  Tara promised Atisha long ago that she would care for all Kadampas in the future.  The fact that we have a spiritual life today is due to her kindness.  She gave birth to our spiritual life.  Like all mothers’ kindnesses, we don’t even see it.  She operates unseen, and we take it for granted.  But there is no doubt, it is thanks to her that we have a spiritual life.  She gave birth to it, she has nurtured it, and she cares for us now even if we never think of her.  For some, she appears herself as Vajrayogini, and therefore serves as our Highest Yoga Tantra Yidam.  Tara is one of the Buddhas who often appears early in our spiritual life.  Almost everybody has a very positive experience with encountering her.  But then, over time, we tend to forget about her as we move on to other practices.  But like any mother, she never forgets her spiritual children.  We should remember this, and generate our thanks to her for it.

Viewing all living beings as our children

Finally, I think it is worth recalling that just as all living beings have been our mother, so too we have been the mother of all living beings.  We can correctly view all living beings as our children, and love them as a good mother would.  The contemplations on the kindness a mother shows to her child are not there just to help us develop gratitude towards our mothers, they are also examples of the attitude we should have towards all of our children.  How many of us would be willing to remove the mucus from a stranger’s nose?  Our mother did that for us.  We should love others so much that we would gladly, and without hesitation do the same for others.  Of course, we shouldn’t go around offering to others to do so, but training in the mind that is willing to help any living being in any way we can is the real meaning of Mother’s Day.